Two weeks ago, hubby and I went to SM megamall to buy few of baby stuff. It was a combination of hesitation and excitement on my part. Hesitation because as a first time mommy, honestly, I am not sure if I knew exactly what I am doing, or what I will be buying for the tiny kiddo. Excitement because this is a different kind of bonding moment for me and hubby. After years of buying stuff for ourselves, for the house, for the car, and all other things, now we are facing a different phase of buying stuff for our own firstborn.
First stop-the pram, or commonly known here as the stroller. We were already sure of what we were going to buy since we scouted for it several weeks ahead. We were set to get Chicco Trevi. It is within our budget and it's quite okay for us. But when we went there to get it, they already run out of stock. They actually had one left, but it was the display unit. For obvious reasons, we did not want the display unit. So we looked for another brand and we landed to Graco station. Graco prams have a reputation of being one of the best brands when it comes to baby prams, cribs, carriers and the likes. Like Chicco, it is one of the best brands for baby carriers. We agreed to get the Graco Quattro Tour Deluxe in elegant green and brown combo. It's quite big and much expensive than Chicco Trevi, but the added features it has, are so convincing, we did not have doubts at all.
-It can be both for a newbord and a toddler, meaning our kiddo can use it from day one up to say three years old.
-The frames are all made of aluminum so we are talking of rust-free material here.
-There are lots of compartment available for baby stuff--baby tray and cup holder in front, parent tray at the back, 2 cup boards at the side, and a load basket below.
-Canopy can be rotated from front to back.
-Wheels made of rubber.
-Washable linings.
-Four stages reclining position.
-And the "it" and "deciding factor" for hubby-the one-touch-easy-fold.
Next stop, baby bottles. We were deciding wether to buy the ever popular feeding bottle brand Avent or the one as equally as popular brand Pigeon. Philips Avent from the UK is no doubt The Man of all feeding bottles. This brand has a superior quality to boost, and it has all the features the baby needs when feeding. With all its top most advantages, the price is no doubt higher than the usual brands. I believe this brand is the most expensive when it comes to feeding bottles, but then it's all worth it. But I did not buy it. We agreed to get Pigeon brand instead. The simple reason we had in mind: We have to know first what the baby's reaction to feeding bottles would be before we indulge into something expensive. We got Pigeon because its quality is not far behind. In fact, it's one of the expensive and saleable brands too. I just got particular with the nipple, since they say the nipple must be patterned from the nipple of the mother, so i bought this type they call peristaltic nipple. This type of nipple allows the baby to suck in the same way they would from a mother's nipple. We bought 3 cutely printed bottles and 3 plain transparent bottles and some extra peristaltic nipples.
Last stop-the crib comforter. We do not have a crib yet, but then we agreed on buying this wooden crib that suits the theme of our place (our pad has sort of all-wood theme). We did not buy it yet since we did not have much space in the car anymore. We just bought the comforter first. The comforter is such a cutey!! It's creamy yellow and light brown color with teddy bear prints. First time I saw it, I did not look for other designs anymore. The set includes the overall side linings, one head pillow, two bolsters, one fitted sheet for the mattress, and one blankie. I know our baby Migo will definitely love it!
I never thought buying baby stuff can be this toxic, but then who cares? I enjoyed every second of it!! This is a first time for me and so far, I am loving it. As a matter of fact, I cannot wait for our next date. I am looking forward to buying some more baby needs. I really love the experience!
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Sharing everything that makes my life as a wife and a mom a blissful experience.
Saturday, March 28, 2009
Normal Delivery or Ceasarian Delivery?
I am now 32 weeks pregnant to date. And I just cannot still believe that I will be delivering a human being soon. In fact, the day I discovered I am pregnant is still very vivid. It's like it was just yesterday. But now, I am only few weeks shy to The Day, our Migo or Miguel Inigo's birthday.
However, as much as I am excited to see our little darling, the pain of getting him out of me is creeping me out. I know for a fact that giving birth is not a piece of cake, and no matter how wonderful it is to bear a child, the method of delivering him out goes from painful to crucial, which gives me goosebumps big time.
As of the moment, I am still not sure if I will be having a vaginal delivery - or commonly known as normal delivery, or abdominal delivery - or better known as caesarian delivery. Las time we checked, the baby is in the right position already, meaning his head is already headed down. But since I am still few weeks away to my due date, and also the baby is moving too much (he's really playful!!), there is a possibility that he still change his position. So there is no way of telling yet which procedure I will undergo. All I can do is talk to my baby every now and then and beg him, literally, to be a good boy and do not let mommy face a hard time in delivering him.
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However, as much as I am excited to see our little darling, the pain of getting him out of me is creeping me out. I know for a fact that giving birth is not a piece of cake, and no matter how wonderful it is to bear a child, the method of delivering him out goes from painful to crucial, which gives me goosebumps big time.
As of the moment, I am still not sure if I will be having a vaginal delivery - or commonly known as normal delivery, or abdominal delivery - or better known as caesarian delivery. Las time we checked, the baby is in the right position already, meaning his head is already headed down. But since I am still few weeks away to my due date, and also the baby is moving too much (he's really playful!!), there is a possibility that he still change his position. So there is no way of telling yet which procedure I will undergo. All I can do is talk to my baby every now and then and beg him, literally, to be a good boy and do not let mommy face a hard time in delivering him.
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Tuesday, March 17, 2009
My Hubby Bid Goodbye to His Hair---Finally!!!
I have been trying to convince my hubby to shave off his hair. He would totally refuse and really won't agree with me. I told him it is about time to change his haircut. I have seen the same ol' boring hairstyle for years!! And he's been sporting that kind of do since time immemorial. I would see his pictures from gradeschool, to highschool, to college and nothing changed. For one, he was so comfortable with this kind of look, it has become his comfort zone. Well, his case is not at all strange. A lot of people won't change their looks for the fear of making their appearance from good to worse. But this time, he really had to say goodbye to his hair. For hubby's having a worst case of falling hair, a disease called alopecia.
Alopecia is a hairloss condition wherein hair is lost in patches or batches and the loss is rather rapid. Reason behind this is not yet completely known but dermatologists usually associate this condition with stress. True enough, since my husband is so dedicated to his work, he is usually stressed. We noticed a small patch of hairloss last November 2008 and we just simply did not mind it. We thought it's just a simple case of hairloss. But we noticed more and more hair falling off. They were clogging the drain, they were all over the floor, even on his office table and computer desk. I would see strands of hair on the pillow, the towel, the headrest of his car. We were alarmed. December of that year, we started consulting dermatologists. That's where we learned that his case is called Alopecia. I researched for it in the internet. I read about the cause, which like I said is still unknown, the symptoms, the appearance, etc. And we concede to the fact that he's really having an alopecia.
This condition of hair loss is not alarming at all. It's just that there are cases wherein hair tends to go a resting phase, meaning, it will not grow at all for a long time. My hubby has been under medication for like three months now and so far, no good. Soft baby hairs are sprouting but they only last for like two to three days for they tend to fall off too. The patchy hair loss started to bother him for people could not help but stare and give him strange looks. It's like he is under going chemotherapy. I admit that i was bothered by it too. So we both decided to shave it all off.
Sunday morning, we went straight to the barber shop and instructed the barber what to do. It only took aroung 10 minutes to shave it all off!! And guess what, he looked great with his new look!! And he liked it too, thank God! And all the people around him--the neighborhood and in the office--all agreed that he looked better now that he shaved it all. I guess it shoot up his confidence again.
He is still under medication, still applying the same scalp ointments and creams prescribed by his dermatologist and that herbal shampoo we discovered in Quezon City Circle. We both concede to the fact that it will take us a long time to see his hair grow again. But nevertheless, with hair or without, he still remains to be the most handsome guy for me.
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Alopecia is a hairloss condition wherein hair is lost in patches or batches and the loss is rather rapid. Reason behind this is not yet completely known but dermatologists usually associate this condition with stress. True enough, since my husband is so dedicated to his work, he is usually stressed. We noticed a small patch of hairloss last November 2008 and we just simply did not mind it. We thought it's just a simple case of hairloss. But we noticed more and more hair falling off. They were clogging the drain, they were all over the floor, even on his office table and computer desk. I would see strands of hair on the pillow, the towel, the headrest of his car. We were alarmed. December of that year, we started consulting dermatologists. That's where we learned that his case is called Alopecia. I researched for it in the internet. I read about the cause, which like I said is still unknown, the symptoms, the appearance, etc. And we concede to the fact that he's really having an alopecia.
This condition of hair loss is not alarming at all. It's just that there are cases wherein hair tends to go a resting phase, meaning, it will not grow at all for a long time. My hubby has been under medication for like three months now and so far, no good. Soft baby hairs are sprouting but they only last for like two to three days for they tend to fall off too. The patchy hair loss started to bother him for people could not help but stare and give him strange looks. It's like he is under going chemotherapy. I admit that i was bothered by it too. So we both decided to shave it all off.
Sunday morning, we went straight to the barber shop and instructed the barber what to do. It only took aroung 10 minutes to shave it all off!! And guess what, he looked great with his new look!! And he liked it too, thank God! And all the people around him--the neighborhood and in the office--all agreed that he looked better now that he shaved it all. I guess it shoot up his confidence again.
He is still under medication, still applying the same scalp ointments and creams prescribed by his dermatologist and that herbal shampoo we discovered in Quezon City Circle. We both concede to the fact that it will take us a long time to see his hair grow again. But nevertheless, with hair or without, he still remains to be the most handsome guy for me.
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Sunday, March 15, 2009
Bra Extensions
My tummy is getting bigger and bigger and that is not the only body part that is expanding. Expectedly, my breasts are not far behind. From 36c, they have grown to a whopping 38c. I have never been proud of this size!! However, discomfort finds its way to interrupt my happiness. My current brassieres are still good enough to use so I did not buy a new set, but I can feel discomfort at the back area since i cannot hook them up anymore. Good thing there are bra extensions available in the market. They are so helpful!!! Aside from expanding the scope of my bras, they now prevent my boobies from touching each other since it's now more spacious and loose. I bought one set of bra extensions for only p145.00. These are available in all maternity shops. Mine I got from Havin a Baby, Trinoma Branch.
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Sunday, March 8, 2009
Have you heard of Ciao.Com? It really Pays!!!
As what I have mentioned in my previous posts, earning money now a days is a struggle. A lot has to be done to extend the family income. I for one is not at all content of my regular job. I also ventured into some small businesses on the side to augment what I am earning. Do you think it's enough? Nope. Since I am spending a lot of time in front of the computer anyways, why not earn from it? Gone are the days that I would just surf and check my friendster and facebook account. Now, whenever I am seated in front of the monitor and tapping the keyboards away, that means money coming in the future days.
I discovered ciao.com last October 2008. I was searching for a reputable get-paid-to's site and I stumbled upon it. Their initial scheme was to pay their members $1 per review of any product found in the site. I was hesitant at first, but since I am fond of writing, why not? Afterall, they only require $5 for a paypout. So i reviewed 5 products at first just to check if they would really credit $5 to my paypal account. Lo and behold, they did!! And after that, I wrote for like 50 or more reviews, and got paid for all of it!! I am still writing reviews for that site, and still earning up to this date. However, they changed their payment scheme come December 2008, but nevertheless, they are still paying. I am still getting some dollars out of it even if I am not writing reviews since there are lots of ways on how to earn from it (from reading other member's reviews, by referring a new member, etc.).
As of this writing, I already earned a total of P4,800 plus from this site. Not bad at all for a some hours spending infront of my monitor.
For those who also want to join this review site and earn just like me, please click the link provided:
http://www.ciao.com/reg.php?FriendId=10019635
Note: It's sad that they are not accepting new members outside UK anymore. I wish in the future, they revise this rule, or atleast have a Paypal service, so other members outside UK can benifit too!!
FROM CIAO.COM--Attention New members! Please note that payment of money earned on ciao.co.uk is only available through a UK bank account. As stated in our bonus program guidelines. Payment via Paypal is not possible.
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I discovered ciao.com last October 2008. I was searching for a reputable get-paid-to's site and I stumbled upon it. Their initial scheme was to pay their members $1 per review of any product found in the site. I was hesitant at first, but since I am fond of writing, why not? Afterall, they only require $5 for a paypout. So i reviewed 5 products at first just to check if they would really credit $5 to my paypal account. Lo and behold, they did!! And after that, I wrote for like 50 or more reviews, and got paid for all of it!! I am still writing reviews for that site, and still earning up to this date. However, they changed their payment scheme come December 2008, but nevertheless, they are still paying. I am still getting some dollars out of it even if I am not writing reviews since there are lots of ways on how to earn from it (from reading other member's reviews, by referring a new member, etc.).
As of this writing, I already earned a total of P4,800 plus from this site. Not bad at all for a some hours spending infront of my monitor.
For those who also want to join this review site and earn just like me, please click the link provided:
http://www.ciao.com/reg.php?FriendId=10019635
Note: It's sad that they are not accepting new members outside UK anymore. I wish in the future, they revise this rule, or atleast have a Paypal service, so other members outside UK can benifit too!!
FROM CIAO.COM--Attention New members! Please note that payment of money earned on ciao.co.uk is only available through a UK bank account. As stated in our bonus program guidelines. Payment via Paypal is not possible.
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The Linea Nigra
As a pregnant woman, there are tons and tons of changes I have to face everyday. On the onset of knowing that I am indeed pregnant, fear of physical changes gushing through me. I have seen a lot of pregnant women changing from slim to stout, from pretty to scary (me bad). And I know I am not an exception. But as of this writing, I am fortunate enough not to look as bad as I expected. In fact, I do not look an inch of a pregnant woman, with the exception of the bulging tummy of course. My face still looks the same, and my neck and nape have not changed it's color. My underarms though are becoming darker by the day, but it's okay at least I can hide that. What I am bothered though is this line in my tummy which is also becoming darker and longer everyday. I am getting conscious about this thingy and sometimes I hate looking at it in the mirror.
This vertical line in the abdomen area is what we call the Linea Nigra. This goes from the pubic area up to the belly button, and in some cases even extends higher. It is dark and is most obvious to fair skinned women like me than dark skinned ones. It is most likely to appear on the second trimester, but I started noticing mine when my tummy started to be obvious. That was, I guess, on y 11th week. The cause of it is not known, though experts say what causes this is the one also resposible for the darkening of the areola. Linea Nigra is much likely to happen to pregnant women.
So what is to be done to prevent this? Bleaching creams? Peeling creams? All pregnant women by now know that any topical treatment, whitening agent and the likes are not safe to be used during pregnancy, so one thing to be done is ---NONE. Just let it be, leave it alone. This is bound to happen. Not to all preggos though. It is said that after giving birth, this is likely to fade, but not on an instant. Give a year or so before you finally say goodbye to it. But knowing that it will be not forever there is a relief already.
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This vertical line in the abdomen area is what we call the Linea Nigra. This goes from the pubic area up to the belly button, and in some cases even extends higher. It is dark and is most obvious to fair skinned women like me than dark skinned ones. It is most likely to appear on the second trimester, but I started noticing mine when my tummy started to be obvious. That was, I guess, on y 11th week. The cause of it is not known, though experts say what causes this is the one also resposible for the darkening of the areola. Linea Nigra is much likely to happen to pregnant women.
So what is to be done to prevent this? Bleaching creams? Peeling creams? All pregnant women by now know that any topical treatment, whitening agent and the likes are not safe to be used during pregnancy, so one thing to be done is ---NONE. Just let it be, leave it alone. This is bound to happen. Not to all preggos though. It is said that after giving birth, this is likely to fade, but not on an instant. Give a year or so before you finally say goodbye to it. But knowing that it will be not forever there is a relief already.
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Havaianas and the Scary Lead Content
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In this world of flip flops, who on earth still does not own a pair of Havaianas? Even the tiniest and the youngest member of any household cannot stand not owning a pair!! This brand of slippers have been so popular in the Philippines, for the Philippines is a tropical country and wearing open type slippers is very appropriate. We can wear this specially during summer season, and we can even wear this during rainy season when we have to brave knee-high flood in the streets. Gone are the days when wearing slippers in the mall or in the hotel can give you unsolicited looks. Gone are the days when wearing slippers are just for those who cannot afford to buy leather-made footwear. For now, as long as you are wearing havaianas, you are so in the "in" crowd.
But what is this I am hearing that local distributor is recalling Havaianas due to lead scare? To refresh, the US has submitted studies and reports stating that Havaianas, specially the ones made for kids and with prints, have a high lead content making it hazardous to be worn. Why are we to be scared of lead? Generally speaking, this is bad for our health. Excessive amount of it can destroy the nervous system, may cause some sickness including cancer, and is harmful to an unborn child.
Local distributor of Havaianas has taken the necessary action of recalling their products to assure the buying market that they are doing what is best to be done. They are to bring samples to the Department of Trade and Industry to have them checked. Even if they are assuring that the US batch is entirely different from the local batch, they are responsible enough to act on the matter by having these products checked. Hopefully in the next days, this issue will be resolved so we can wear our collection of lovely pairs with a peace of mind.
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In this world of flip flops, who on earth still does not own a pair of Havaianas? Even the tiniest and the youngest member of any household cannot stand not owning a pair!! This brand of slippers have been so popular in the Philippines, for the Philippines is a tropical country and wearing open type slippers is very appropriate. We can wear this specially during summer season, and we can even wear this during rainy season when we have to brave knee-high flood in the streets. Gone are the days when wearing slippers in the mall or in the hotel can give you unsolicited looks. Gone are the days when wearing slippers are just for those who cannot afford to buy leather-made footwear. For now, as long as you are wearing havaianas, you are so in the "in" crowd.
But what is this I am hearing that local distributor is recalling Havaianas due to lead scare? To refresh, the US has submitted studies and reports stating that Havaianas, specially the ones made for kids and with prints, have a high lead content making it hazardous to be worn. Why are we to be scared of lead? Generally speaking, this is bad for our health. Excessive amount of it can destroy the nervous system, may cause some sickness including cancer, and is harmful to an unborn child.
Local distributor of Havaianas has taken the necessary action of recalling their products to assure the buying market that they are doing what is best to be done. They are to bring samples to the Department of Trade and Industry to have them checked. Even if they are assuring that the US batch is entirely different from the local batch, they are responsible enough to act on the matter by having these products checked. Hopefully in the next days, this issue will be resolved so we can wear our collection of lovely pairs with a peace of mind.
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Thursday, March 5, 2009
The Husband Store
(this i got from an email. read on and do not tell me it is not true.)
WELCOME TO THE HUSBAND STORE!!
A store that sells husbands has just open in New York City, where a woman may choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is a description of how the store operates:You may visit the store ONLY ONCE! There are six floors and the attributes of the men increase as the shopper ascends the flights. There is, however, a catch... you may choose any man from a particular floor, or you may choose to go up floor, but you cannot go back down except to exit the building!
Happy Shopping!!!
Floor 1: These men have jobs and love the Lord.
the second floor sign reads:Floor 2: These men have jobs, love the Lord, and like kids.
The third floor sign reads:Floor 3: these men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids and are extremely good looking.
"Wow!" she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going. She goes to the fourth floor and the sign reads:Floor 4: These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, are drop-dead good looking and help with the housework.
"Oh mercy me!" she exclaims, "I can hardly stand it!" Still, she goes to the fifth floor and the sign reads:
She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor and the sign read
Floor 6: You are visitor 4,363.012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exist solely as proof that women are impossible to please. Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store. Watch your step as you exit the building. Have a nice day!::::::::::::::::
Tuesday, March 3, 2009
My Old-School Ways to Keep A Happy Married Life
Having almost three jobs to fulfill--my daytime job which is co-managing the family business, my own entreprenurial adventures, and my online jobs, I sometimes wonder where to get the energy to at least keep in touch with the marriage department. I often feel guilty that most of the time it has to take the back seat to make way to some as equally important concerns. In hard times like this, with the word "recession" always heard in the news and read in the papers, one cannot deny the fact that money is much harder to earn now a days so one has to strive harder than the usual. Unfortunately, I am not an Ayala or an Ortigas to take things just as lightly, and my husband is not a Sy or a Gokongwei either. My hubby is earning enough for the two of us, most of the time earning more than enough when he gets bonuses and the like, but with a baby coming up, my being a segurista cannot help but panic and worry on where to get moolah for the future of this baby.
But married life definitely has not to suffer. For I believe that you can have all the money in the world, but if you have a failed marriage and a lonely life, you simply still do not have it all. My marriage is still my topmost priority, no matter what. And i know some days i tend to neglect it, but most of the time i nurture it as a baby. It does not have to be as stressfull, for there are simple ways to keep a happily married life. These are old-school ways, you may say, but still very powerful in keeping the marriage happier and stronger.
1. I am polite.
I believe that most people, especially those who are married for like ten, twenty years, tend to forget to be polite. I, up to this date, never fail to say "thank you" or "please" to my hubby. And i even say "sorry" if needed. No matter how small it is, I never failed to be polite to him. And I couple it with some sweetness and tenderness, making it really sincere and truthfull to hear. My husband, in return, does the same and sometimes even more. He still opens the door for me, goes to the danger side when we are crossing the street and pulls out the chair for me. They may seem so traditional, but being polite shows that the respect is still there and we both care how the other feels.
2. I do not end the day angry.
I believe that time is gold. Okay, it's a cliche. But going to bed angry just eats up a lot of precious time that could be spent to some other valuable and quality bonding. I finish my work at around 8pm, and my husband finishes around that time too. Imagine the measly time left for us to be together and talk about how the day was. Time left for us is too short, too short to even argue over things, and worst, go to bed angry at each other. So what I do, I finish any argument as fast as I could, just sticking to the issue. It's faster that way. If there is no way we can really wrap it up and finish it, we would agree to sleep it over first and talk it over the following day, without setting an angry mood. It also helps in clearing the mind, making us more relaxed when we proceed with the talking.
3. There are My Love Letters.
In this world full of high tech communication, who still writes love letters? I do! Yes, i do and I am proud of it. The letters I write are small notes just to remind him how happy I am that he is my husband, that I am such a lucky wife to have him. It's often a surprise note for him, often found in places he never expects. Like a letter sticking in the television set, for the first thing he does when he wakes up is to turn on the TV. Something like that. Or letter of reminders, like the one i stick in the dash shield reminding him to drive safely on his way to work. Just like last month when he went to Hongkong, I put love notes in different pockets of his travelling bag, making him find one note everyday. He enjoyed it, it was like a hunt. And his anticipation offinding a new note each day made him miss me more. Yes, text messages still reign, but writing love letters is still the best to assure someone how we deeply love them.
4. I compliment him.
Saying "you look cute on your new haircut" makes him feel secured and confident, but really, there is a deeper meaning to giving a compliment. Compliments show that you are in tune with your spouse, that he has your 100 percent attention. For you cannot give a SINCERE compliment if you do not know everything going on with him, like a new haircut for example. It means that you always notice him, that you are always connected to him. But of course pumping up his confidence is a major plus point, making him not want to get compliment from someone else.
5. I hold his hands.
Whether in private or in public, i never fail to seek for his hand and hold it. It may be in the mall, or simply when he's driving. Even when we are sleeping. It makes me feel secured, and it fully expresses our affection to each other.
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But married life definitely has not to suffer. For I believe that you can have all the money in the world, but if you have a failed marriage and a lonely life, you simply still do not have it all. My marriage is still my topmost priority, no matter what. And i know some days i tend to neglect it, but most of the time i nurture it as a baby. It does not have to be as stressfull, for there are simple ways to keep a happily married life. These are old-school ways, you may say, but still very powerful in keeping the marriage happier and stronger.
1. I am polite.
I believe that most people, especially those who are married for like ten, twenty years, tend to forget to be polite. I, up to this date, never fail to say "thank you" or "please" to my hubby. And i even say "sorry" if needed. No matter how small it is, I never failed to be polite to him. And I couple it with some sweetness and tenderness, making it really sincere and truthfull to hear. My husband, in return, does the same and sometimes even more. He still opens the door for me, goes to the danger side when we are crossing the street and pulls out the chair for me. They may seem so traditional, but being polite shows that the respect is still there and we both care how the other feels.
2. I do not end the day angry.
I believe that time is gold. Okay, it's a cliche. But going to bed angry just eats up a lot of precious time that could be spent to some other valuable and quality bonding. I finish my work at around 8pm, and my husband finishes around that time too. Imagine the measly time left for us to be together and talk about how the day was. Time left for us is too short, too short to even argue over things, and worst, go to bed angry at each other. So what I do, I finish any argument as fast as I could, just sticking to the issue. It's faster that way. If there is no way we can really wrap it up and finish it, we would agree to sleep it over first and talk it over the following day, without setting an angry mood. It also helps in clearing the mind, making us more relaxed when we proceed with the talking.
3. There are My Love Letters.
In this world full of high tech communication, who still writes love letters? I do! Yes, i do and I am proud of it. The letters I write are small notes just to remind him how happy I am that he is my husband, that I am such a lucky wife to have him. It's often a surprise note for him, often found in places he never expects. Like a letter sticking in the television set, for the first thing he does when he wakes up is to turn on the TV. Something like that. Or letter of reminders, like the one i stick in the dash shield reminding him to drive safely on his way to work. Just like last month when he went to Hongkong, I put love notes in different pockets of his travelling bag, making him find one note everyday. He enjoyed it, it was like a hunt. And his anticipation offinding a new note each day made him miss me more. Yes, text messages still reign, but writing love letters is still the best to assure someone how we deeply love them.
4. I compliment him.
Saying "you look cute on your new haircut" makes him feel secured and confident, but really, there is a deeper meaning to giving a compliment. Compliments show that you are in tune with your spouse, that he has your 100 percent attention. For you cannot give a SINCERE compliment if you do not know everything going on with him, like a new haircut for example. It means that you always notice him, that you are always connected to him. But of course pumping up his confidence is a major plus point, making him not want to get compliment from someone else.
5. I hold his hands.
Whether in private or in public, i never fail to seek for his hand and hold it. It may be in the mall, or simply when he's driving. Even when we are sleeping. It makes me feel secured, and it fully expresses our affection to each other.
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